How do you choose a maid of honour?

Words by Lauren Marks Crennan

Choosing your bridesmaid(s) can be very difficult and, for better or worse, open to judgment from others. The heavily weighted decision should not be taken lightly; as the bride you must find a careful balance and surround yourself with girlfriends you can most closely rely on without appearing to choose ‘favourites'. Unfortunately your good intentions may inadvertently offend some of your closest friends, siblings and maybe even your fiancé's family.

The ultimate decision about who you choose to be your maid of honour should come down to only one question – do you believe that this person will support you through the good times, as well as the inevitable ‘bridezilla' moments? It is also important to ask yourself whether this woman is still likely to be in your life in years to come. Will she be honest with you and remind you of the reasons you married when times are a little tough? Is your friendship sincere and non-judgmental? Can she handle the responsibility of being your head bridesmaid, also known as ‘head bride's-slave'? With the ever-increasing demands of life, work, love and family, never have we had a stronger need to surround ourselves with loyal and loving friendships than during the intense planning of a wedding. It has been implied that many women play a part in two very intense relationships at any one time – the first with their lover or partner, the second with their best friend.

I want to share with you a glimpse at how wonderful it can be when you choose the right person for the lead role of maid of honour at your wedding.
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