Young attendants in the spotlight

Words by Lauren Marks Crennan

Throughout history children have been involved in weddings, and their presence in the church aisle often pre-empts the anticipated arrival of the bride. Flowergirls and pageboys add humour and sentiment to a ceremony, but many adults know that it doesn't always work out for the best. Many a young child has found the responsibility of being a flowergirl or pageboy overwhelming, and others through no fault of their own, have simply acted their age. It is important as adults to remember that these attendants are young, and while they may sometimes seem older than their tender years, they may not have developed the coping skills required for a stint in the spotlight.

Even the adult attendants can feel overwhelmed at a wedding; imagine how children must feel. The experience of being a pageboy or flowergirl should be very special, a unique opportunity to play a very important role in the marriage of two people who love him or her. However, with the gaze of every guest upon them, being in an unfamiliar environment and with the pressure to perform, it is understandable that it may be a little scary. The key is to make it a fun journey, one that the child will remember for the good times rather than the bad. Following are some pre-wedding tips for instilling confidence in your young attendants.
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